Quotes: Inspiration to Harness Fear

“… the ability to accurately label and effectively harness disappointment– to its proper and most beneficial place, is growth. I don’t mean “excuses” because those are empty, but when I am actively working on becoming better in that specific area, I am growing. You can see the steps I am and will take and progress is measurable. Then, you can see that the car is harnessing the fuel– not the other way around. I was allowing the fuel to drive and it completely incinerated the car! You can’t travel in a burnt up car!”

These are the BASICS– an important piece of the foundation on which I can build my dreams.

I value a short-cut and a heads-up like everyone else, but I can’t dream of shopping and promoting volumes of my own future work with the anxiety I carried about revealing myself or paralyzing fear and self-criticism that haunted me. Do I still become fearful? Yes, but instead of transporting me back to bed, I’ve learned to harness it as fuel to transport me to back to the satisfaction that comes with living a peaceful life– not fearful in spirit.”

–lovemeka, After Challenge to Act Out.. (7/10/13)

I’m happy I found this draft in my inbox today when I could use it most 🙂  I hope in time you can draw strength from it too. Please also pay-it-forward by sharing using the buttons below! 

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Nerd Words: Literal Arts

Nerd World

That’s a post-secondary area of study, right? The study of trying to find a job with it -ology? Noooo. I literally don’t feel that way. Every egghead, non-prescription-spectacle-wearin’-geek-wanna-be-with-a-mouse, or nerd-stalkin’-senior-year-opportunist who has accidentally glanced at a ripped note BEFORE crushing it into enough saliva to make a “spitball” with enough density to propel it at the angle available using the perfect air pressure to reach the velocity required to adhere it to the classroom CEILING…. Knows:

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Commentary from Interact: May as Well Tell You Now: A Poem

Continued Commentary from Interact with Me: 2) I discuss the comments I picked about  Treyvon Martin

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  • I like by Jacquelyn’s comment a lot because it’s concise, to the point, and I could only hope to do that. She was actually responding specifically to one of the points that Dy made but specifically to him- acknowledging and validating his feelings. This part for some reason was reminiscent of criticisms of another race, and it made me understand how they must have felt because those things- crimes literally break my heart, and everyone is doing the best he or she can. Forget race, as a human being, mindful of what we know about psychology, teaching an infant who grow up a child to be kind and accommodating while everyone’s scared to death of him is quite the task: watching, following, condescending tones as if he can’t hear or perceive, sometimes failing to remember his age, consider that perhaps he’s sick, or any other human emotion. He must be perfect. Perfection is tossed out extra quickly when you look like an adult seemingly overnight– that’ll change your life. One day you’re Trey, and the next, you’re 6′ Mr. Martin. Ever ask a kid not to internalize or ask him to manage or control the emotions of around you? Oh he’d probably put his head down or put his hood up. Hiding– I can relate to that. Anyone could if they wanted to…
  • “Unfortunately, we have all been trained to not say these things in public especially on our FB pages because then we come off as always bringing up the “race card”. I don’t like gangs and senseless violence of ANY race.” – Jacquelyn Kuykendall (excerpt)

  • Dy’s passage is a stirring defense of the teen girl who testified on behalf of her friend Treyvon, in spite of the onslaught of painful racist and class-ist ridicule she endured in social media from all around. I didn’t know her before because I did not follow the trial, but after reading this, I am proud of her bravery because I know what it’s like to overcome a fear, and it is not easy for an adult. My quick little search  revealed what I would characterize as cyber-bullying. The gunman’s supporters attacked her deleted tweets to friends– not because she implicated guilt but for her perceived lack of education as judged by the articulation of her texts. This is important because as Dy says, English is not her first language, but most of us only know one language– broken, wrong, or not. She passionately calls on others to lift this young lady in support.  Dy discusses qualities that made this young lady  a target of ridicule within the racial community with passion- not ridicule but support, offer help, or say nothing about her .
  • This makes me appreciate being raised as a person and not as a color. Different types of people were always around- no mention because it didn’t matter. Every once in a while, I would encounter someone who didn’t know any better, but not often! In that sense, I knew who I wasn’t, and that “my place” was no different– not as a conscious thought, but just that it is. It’s easy to focus on what ya didn’t have, what  happened, or who I might’ve become if, but sometimes it’s good to be thankful for what didn’t happen and what I didn’t become. Because something you just don’t want to be.

Thank you for reading! We need some cheer honey!!

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May as Well Tell You Now: A Poem.

May as Well Tell You Now: A Poem

-Poem 8: Inspired by the family and those grieving Treyvon Martin

If I could ever shield you from darkness and injustice, I would shield you now

What was wrong with believing everything seen on tv about freedom, justice, and being

Wild-eyed innocence—like a child beaming at Santa…or the President- you can do anything!

Who could tell you? I know how they felt comforting me as a child who had seen the King beating on TV

A paroled construction worker and the violence that ensured, I would rather forget

But it happens too often, so I can’t- hoped against disappointment months ago sensing no good end

Maybe that’s the reason your broken heart now calls my pen…

Raindrops in your coffee; these words are bitter to taste but there’s a lot of truth

Dear loves, I wouldn’t waste my “me space” just to bullsh-t you

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Why “Nerd Words” aren’t so Nerdy

A word-lovin-nerd-blog must have a segment about words. Here’s why “Nerd Words” never became just word-a-day filler I imagined.

Here’s why “Nerd Words” aren’t so nerdy.

1. I try to be loyal to my words. Of all the titillating tongue-dancing, lip-smacking words, sensory reacting words, right in front of us that we take for granted, how dare I scour exotic special dictionaries of clobbered latin, non-sense, and redundancy.

With “use your words” as a common request on this self-discovery a mission, why would I think you seek to speak like someone else? Instead of introducing new words, I seek to re-introduce some that are important to me– those we hear all the time and skim past without a second look. They might be introduced in a different context than we normally to seeing them. If only a nerd would know that, only an artist could conceptualize it– ’cause we can make flat things seem spatial– a lingual engineer(?)… a geek would get that.

But whyyyy?

mechanolater

mechanolater (Photo credit: Pete Prodoehl)

I find that it’s easier effectively listen when we don’t take words for granted– that is…know what we’re listening for. A single overused, misplaced, mispronounced, anecdotal, regional, or mystical word leaves some less than enchanted and perhaps the impression that they have already heard all that one has to say. Ahh to our detriment ’cause this is a sure-fire way to end up searching the world for what is right in front of ya. Now presentation is undeniable indeed, but I’ll take a platinum dinner plate in a hefty bag over a plastic noir origami on an engraved zinc alloy platter, any day of the week.

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HUMANITY n. “1. a. The quality or state of being human. b. the quality or state of being kind to other people and animals 2. All people: humankind

/HUgh-MON-ataaaayah/ or so I pronounced it when selecting this one. With exaggerated lip movements stretching that Southern drawl out as far as I could while striking a thinking man pose!

……..But instead the stealthiness of Legos confounded me along with how to choreograph a toy-scoop, deodorant check, yawn, and stretch in a single “Boom-Kat”. But my body was already preparing a homeostatic mechanism in protest of impending exposure to the boredom of an overused and loftily associated word. Why would I choose it?

You know how “human” is our species (or category)? Well, knowing that makes it easier to grasp humanity: “I know you are a human because of all these qualities; you all have them.” If we did not, we would be another type of animal. This is one of the basics that I hope everyone already knows. Just as the golden rule of thumb for when one human interacts with another human is to treat her as you would want to be treated. This works especially assuming that we both recognize that each other are human (people)– the very definition of humanity.

Honey, you’re sharp if you are here. The magic happens quickly, so pay attention!

VISUALIZE (Visual Exercise)

If you’re a visual learner, try this little quick exercise to see if it helps you connect with your humanity. You can look or imagine looking at your reflection and into the gaze of your own eyes or simply pointing to yourself.

1. First, look into that mirror and vocalize who you are as a human, person, …by your name, or just whatever is comfortable for you.

My sketch of Mr. Oh T. Humanity

My sketch of Mr. Oh T. Humanity

2. Find out by asking and expressing how you deserve to be treated, how you want to be treated, and also specifically how others are treating you.

3. Perform checks during this exercise by asking, “do I really believe what I just said?” If you do, proceed. If not, be honest, and then please…continue.

4. If at this point, you feel no doubt about the accuracy of this survey of your feelings right now, re-read the Golden Rule example below:

Read again: The golden rule of thumb for when one human interacts with another human is to treat her as you would want to be treated. This works especially assuming that both of us recognize that each other are human (people)– the very definition of humanity.

So ask me again why this ol’ dull drab highfalutin word “humanity”? Because I almost tacked on humanitarian AND humanitarianism in a white paper-sized article about tryna sub humanitarian-ism for human-ity.

…..and from where in the hell do these Legos keep coming?!–just as I have run outta “Boom-Kat”.

Visual EXERCISE

Nerd Words to Love By: Humanity